Comments on: Worse case scenario

By: mstebby

mstebby — Fri, 14 Jul 2006 03:47:08 +0000

I was at my dr’s office today, and there were a ton of babies in the waiting room. I was looking around thinking maybe we should rethink fertility treatments, maybe we should do something else? I don’t know. I really want to be a mommy. All this uncertainity is so hard. We choose China when the wait was 8-10 months. We thought we would be getting our baby this year. Everyone said that putting together your dossier was the easy part and the wait was hard. I believed them but I don’t think I put enough stock into what they said. We stopped talking baby a couple of months ago, we haven’t thought any more about the nursery or baby stuff. It is like all of those hopes and dreams are now stuffed in a rubbermaid container in the closet, waiting for “some day” when we can pull them out again.
I am glad we have this forum, because everyone understands how sad this all is. My best friend’s baby shower is Sunday. We thought we were going to be mommies together, figuring out the baby thing together, guess not.
Maybe July referrals will bring us all some hope.

By: threebluesteps

threebluesteps — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 23:39:39 +0000

merci bien, monsieur cellule, for your cheerful french canadian bounce and cheerful approach!

From all we’re reading: it could speed up. it could slow down. It could stay the same. Who knows?! I’m starting to feel like I’m in the high-school cafeteria, grey suede purse hanging over the back of a metal chair, feathered haircut and a paper plate of fries & gravy -
“I think he looked at me?”
“Did he?”
“Yeah, I coulda swore he waved at you.”
“No, he always flicks his hair behind his ears like that, it just looks like a wave…”
“No, really, I swear this time he was waving ‘hi’ and trying to catch your eye.”
“Omhygod really? He did? What does that MEAN?
“It means he likes you, spazz. You should go over.”
“I can’t? What if we’re wrong? What if he wasn’t waving at all. I’ll just..I’ll just wait here. Tell me, what’s he doing now. Can you see him?”
“He’s picking up his books…. he’s getting up…. he’s walking over here–oh my god — he’s… walking out he’s..leaving. Oh well, maybe tomorrow….”

Where is Maria-from-Spain and her tone of calm certainty? (& where was she to set me straight in 1985?)

By: carolinajulie

carolinajulie — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 23:08:57 +0000

Vanburen: I am feeling confident, too. Yall, lets calm down a tiny bit and breathe in and out. If you’re a praying person, pray a little. We all chose to adopt from China for a reason. Stand firm.

By: carolionking

carolionking — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 22:27:41 +0000

Oops. Typo alert – directory should be director. :(

By: carolionking

carolionking — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 22:26:27 +0000

WaitingforAllie – My agency also led me to believe I could not become pregnant either. I thought it was a Chinese policy.

Mom2Isabel – We are the second strongest group of people (I think). Second, because our daughters are the most strong little ones, who find themselves suddenly alone in the world. Who will be taken from everything they know to a different world. They will be strong enough to adapt and thrive.

DaniWestRN – We looked into Ethiopia about a month ago. Despite promoting short wait times, we were told that children under two take 9 months minimum. This was told to me personally by the directory of the largest agency working in Ethiopia.

By: browneyedgirl

browneyedgirl — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 21:47:20 +0000

Everyone-
Take a deep breath and hook up your Margarita I.V. s. I really hope this is truly a “impossible worst case scenario”. There is no way this will ever happen, although in my worst nightmares, it does. I for one, will remain optimistic, and stick with the 12-14 month rumor. They know how many dossiers and how many babies there are – it will all come out fine!
Oh, my bag’s empty – back to the blender!

By: DaniWestRN

DaniWestRN — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 21:05:39 +0000

Wunone- Ethiopia has a short wait time… around 4-6 months (or less) for healthy infants, many under 6 months some as young as 2.5 months on home coming.

By: MN Mommy

MN Mommy — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 21:00:58 +0000

I am already going nuts with this wait. If the chart is correct then we will have to wait until April 07. NO WAY!!!! That just can not be right!?! I am sticking to my gut feelings, that we will get our referral in October. It will be a HAPPY Happy Halloween!

By: vanburen

vanburen — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 20:58:41 +0000

I am confident that there will not be a 2-3 year wait. I am confident that an organisation like the CCAA, having run int. adoptions like a well-oiled machine for years is not taken by surprise when it comes to “supply and demand” (excuse the merchantile language). I am confident that this wait is man-made and for political reasons (Olympics) only. I am confident that the wait will be one year from LID to referral because that is the case with a number of other countries doing int. adoptions and therefore China will not stick out in a negative way. I have a 04/11/06 LID and I am confident that I will get my referral in April of 2007 and go to China during the (hot) summer. May I add that I am not usually a confident person when it comes to these matters. But on this one I am!

By: Coartney

Coartney — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 20:46:15 +0000

Hello Everyone,

I am just reminding myself that the last batch of referrals was the largest group we have seen in awhile. I believe that was the turning point in this wait. Of course we won’t know until we see July, but that helps me sleep at night, along with a strong drink.

We also received our wristbands yesterday, and I am looking for my purple bandana!!

LID 8/10