Comments on: The Numbers exercise, again http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/ Join the Rumor Queen as she looks for the latest rumors and then analyzes them, trying to figure out what the CCAA will do next. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 19:39:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: RumorQueen http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11767 RumorQueen Thu, 31 Aug 2006 11:24:02 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11767 Wow, what a way to put me in a most difficult place. I have 27 emails this morning complaining about the talk of war in Iraq and how this is not the place for it. And yet if I say something to the mother of a soldier who is worried about her son's life then I'm going to come off as a huge bitch. Honestly, I'm still trying to figure out how a post of a spreadsheet turned into a discussion of the War in Iraq. Wow, what a way to put me in a most difficult place.

I have 27 emails this morning complaining about the talk of war in Iraq and how this is not the place for it.

And yet if I say something to the mother of a soldier who is worried about her son’s life then I’m going to come off as a huge bitch.

Honestly, I’m still trying to figure out how a post of a spreadsheet turned into a discussion of the War in Iraq.

]]> By: smalltowngirl http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11762 smalltowngirl Thu, 31 Aug 2006 04:51:13 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11762 Wyofamily.....thank your son for me. It humbles me to think of ones like him that unselfishly provide for us all. May he come home safely. May you soon welcome your new little one into your family as well. Wyofamily…..thank your son for me. It humbles me to think of ones like him that unselfishly provide for us all. May he come home safely. May you soon welcome your new little one into your family as well.

]]> By: gretchen http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11761 gretchen Thu, 31 Aug 2006 04:34:10 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11761 wyofamily- I'm with you. We're not supposed to mention politics or religion on this site but I/we support what your son has sacrificed. wyofamily- I’m with you. We’re not supposed to mention politics or religion on this site but I/we support what your son has sacrificed.

]]> By: wyofamily http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11759 wyofamily Thu, 31 Aug 2006 03:57:11 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11759 Thank you, Gretchen. Nothing means more to our soldiers than our support. Nothing. I believe we all have courage within us. And have an opportunity to develop it in the topsy turvy journey of life. May a power greater than ourselves provide us peace. Thank you, Gretchen. Nothing means more to our soldiers than our support. Nothing.

I believe we all have courage within us. And have an opportunity to develop it in the topsy turvy journey of life.

May a power greater than ourselves provide us peace.

]]> By: wyofamily http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11758 wyofamily Thu, 31 Aug 2006 03:44:13 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11758 Thank you wearewaiting. Your words mean a lot. So often I feel that no one (or so few) understands what we families of soldiers are going through. Just the other day, I took the newspaper out of the box and saw a headline of a neighbor boy who had been kiiled in Bagdad--and fell to the ground like a knife to the heart. I did not know him or his family but it did not matter. It could have been us--and our family. Today was the photo was of his grief stricken mother. When my son signed up, he said he did it because he believed it was the responsibility of every American to defend the life we have--the freedoms especially--that we could no longer wait for others to do it for us--for the neighbors--or people we did not know. He felt that way. And still does. Just two weeks ago his Humvee ran over an IED, missing them by 10 feet. When I saw World Trade Tower last week I was heartened to discover the Marine was the true hero of the film. The people who risk thier lives for us are indeed the heroes--and do it not for the glory--but for the principles and beliefs that make this country great. We don't even know their names. Waiting is hard. Waiting for him to call--which he can do so infrequently. Waiting for him to come home--we know not when. Frustration is another theme--that none of what the solderis tell us they are doing (what is going well and their progress) makes it to a nightly news show. Amd uncertainly--deep in the gut--that things are happening we don't know about. And pride--for all of those brave young men and women--not just my son--who so desperately want to know that we support them. This is not a blog about our efforts in Iraq. I know that. But we are all human and share in the human condition. In the scope of things, those of us here are waiting for an outcome of joy in the rollercoaster of interlantional adoption. We are some of the lucky ones. Not to diminish what we go through as we attempt to find our lost daughters. But to point to varied expereinces we confront as human beings--and their feared or expected outcomes. One day at a time. Together. Thank you wearewaiting. Your words mean a lot. So often I feel that no one (or so few) understands what we families of soldiers are going through. Just the other day, I took the newspaper out of the box and saw a headline of a neighbor boy who had been kiiled in Bagdad–and fell to the ground like a knife to the heart. I did not know him or his family but it did not matter. It could have been us–and our family. Today was the photo was of his grief stricken mother.

When my son signed up, he said he did it because he believed it was the responsibility of every American to defend the life we have–the freedoms especially–that we could no longer wait for others to do it for us–for the neighbors–or people we did not know. He felt that way. And still does. Just two weeks ago his Humvee ran over an IED, missing them by 10 feet.

When I saw World Trade Tower last week I was heartened to discover the Marine was the true hero of the film. The people who risk thier lives for us are indeed the heroes–and do it not for the glory–but for the principles and beliefs that make this country great. We don’t even know their names.

Waiting is hard. Waiting for him to call–which he can do so infrequently. Waiting for him to come home–we know not when. Frustration is another theme–that none of what the solderis tell us they are doing (what is going well and their progress) makes it to a nightly news show. Amd uncertainly–deep in the gut–that things are happening we don’t know about. And pride–for all of those brave young men and women–not just my son–who so desperately want to know that we support them.

This is not a blog about our efforts in Iraq. I know that. But we are all human and share in the human condition. In the scope of things, those of us here are waiting for an outcome of joy in the rollercoaster of interlantional adoption. We are some of the lucky ones.

Not to diminish what we go through as we attempt to find our lost daughters. But to point to varied expereinces we confront as human beings–and their feared or expected outcomes.

One day at a time. Together.

]]> By: gretchen http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11757 gretchen Thu, 31 Aug 2006 03:36:30 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11757 wyo- when my husband wakes up tomorrow I'm going to show him your post. He's so proud of our boys (and girls) in Iraq and the sacrifice for them & their families. Please know that we appreciate what he's doing and your acceptance of his decision to do so. wyo- when my husband wakes up tomorrow I’m going to show him your post. He’s so proud of our boys (and girls) in Iraq and the sacrifice for them & their families. Please know that we appreciate what he’s doing and your acceptance of his decision to do so.

]]> By: wearewaiting http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11756 wearewaiting Thu, 31 Aug 2006 03:13:02 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11756 wyofamily~ once again I read a post that seems to put me back in place. Yes, we are waiting and it is so hard and out of our control. But you are doing the "wait" and with your son in Iraq you must face a whole new bunch of emotions. Please thank him for us, we will wait and I pray that he is safe. He is a Hero! wyofamily~ once again I read a post that seems to put me back in place. Yes, we are waiting and it is so hard and out of our control. But you are doing the “wait” and with your son in Iraq you must face a whole new bunch of emotions. Please thank him for us, we will wait and I pray that he is safe. He is a Hero!

]]> By: P.nutandJAM http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11755 P.nutandJAM Thu, 31 Aug 2006 02:51:13 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11755 Katri, If I'm not mistaken (and anyone feel free to jump in and correct me if I'm wrong) the average amount of referral days for the past 6 months was 9.6 days. The average for the past 7 months was 10 days, 8 months was 12.4 days, and 9 months was 12.5 days. I hope this is correct and that I could help! Katri,
If I’m not mistaken (and anyone feel free to jump in and correct me if I’m wrong) the average amount of referral days for the past 6 months was 9.6 days. The average for the past 7 months was 10 days, 8 months was 12.4 days, and 9 months was 12.5 days. I hope this is correct and that I could help!

]]> By: wyofamily http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11752 wyofamily Thu, 31 Aug 2006 02:30:04 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11752 With DTC 7-23-06 and no LID still, I choose to focus on the repeated assertions of the CCAA to attempt to keep the timeframe around 12 months. Of course, with a son in Iraq, denial is a good friend. Occupying my mind with worst case scenarios turns me into a bowl of warm Jello with a tendency for random emotional ourtbursts. We must be strong. And courageous. These are not life or death inconveniences that we face, unlike our soldeirs in uniform in various parts of the MIddle East. I try to remember that and to appreciate the blessings of each individual day. What else can we do? I do appreciate the information that RQ provides and the community of caring and support. Thank you. My son is in Iraq for each of you. And has no regrets. With DTC 7-23-06 and no LID still, I choose to focus on the repeated assertions of the CCAA to attempt to keep the timeframe around 12 months. Of course, with a son in Iraq, denial is a good friend. Occupying my mind with worst case scenarios turns me into a bowl of warm Jello with a tendency for random emotional ourtbursts. We must be strong. And courageous. These are not life or death inconveniences that we face, unlike our soldeirs in uniform in various parts of the MIddle East. I try to remember that and to appreciate the blessings of each individual day. What else can we do?

I do appreciate the information that RQ provides and the community of caring and support. Thank you. My son is in Iraq for each of you. And has no regrets.

]]> By: Katri http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11751 Katri Thu, 31 Aug 2006 02:15:36 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2006/08/30/the-numbers-exercise-again/#comment-11751 I'm LID 9/9/05 and theres no hope for me it seems for anything sooner than the end November - that's a 14 -15 month wait. I'm praying that TA's will be fast. I'm weary. I’m LID 9/9/05 and theres no hope for me it seems for anything sooner than the end November - that’s a 14 -15 month wait. I’m praying that TA’s will be fast. I’m weary.

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