It’s looking like it’s not going to happen today.
And we still don’t know anything else about the cut-off date.
Bummer is actually not the word I’d like to use here, but it will have to do.
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October 25th, 2006 at 3:14 pm
How about “Horse Pucky”
you can translate it any way you want…
8/24/05
October 25th, 2006 at 3:15 pm
I’m sure I know what word(s) you would rather use, but yea such language woul not be what you want to use since we all want to appear as nice, decent people who will make good parents, but who says we can’t think it. LOL!
October 25th, 2006 at 3:17 pm
Positive energy going out to all the Aug. LIDs who have to endure yet another day of not knowing what the HE!! is going on. Hopefully tomorrow morning there will be some news.
October 25th, 2006 at 3:27 pm
5 of the last 8 referral dates were the last Monday of the month, so I’m still thinking it is next Monday, hope I am wrong and it is tomorrow
October 25th, 2006 at 3:31 pm
Oh, this is bovine excrement!!!!
:-(
L
October 25th, 2006 at 3:36 pm
I have heard that we will not get referrals until next week and that the 24th is looking good…
October 25th, 2006 at 3:40 pm
So are the rumors still going that next months referrals will be mid-november?
October 25th, 2006 at 3:46 pm
Imm25 I’m with you. I think they like to send them out on Friday and then close for the weekend so that they can’t be hounded. :) (I’m so cynical!)
Hope to be proved wrong!
October 25th, 2006 at 3:46 pm
Bela…. how is Aug.31st looking?? i just want Aug. to be done already!! good grief, charlie brown!!!
October 25th, 2006 at 3:46 pm
bovine excrement?! omg i’m dying here. lmao!!!!
I was thinking of finding one of those devices that “beeps” so I could just move my mouth and press the button constantly for about 5 minutes.
oh well, it is what it is. not that I like what it is, but a pile o’ poo by any other name is still a pile o’ poo.
:)
October 25th, 2006 at 3:49 pm
I would have used the “F” word. That being “Fiddlesticks,” of course. :)
October 25th, 2006 at 3:50 pm
well i guess this means yet another cyber slumber party..
lid8.11.05
October 25th, 2006 at 3:52 pm
I need one of those brown paper bags!!!! I thought for sure we would have heard something at the beginning of the week.
TG-don’t it find it interesting that our agency knows that the matches are finished, but nothing about if they have been mailed. I need this ride to be over!!!
8/10/05
October 25th, 2006 at 3:56 pm
yeah, coartney…i thought the same thing. oh good so they’ve said they’re through matching. okay…sooo…..ummm…
alittle help here…
LOL
okay so can we be the kids in the back seat going “are we there yet? are we there yet? are we there yet?”
October 25th, 2006 at 3:58 pm
oh and PT where ever you are…
yeah, not so much with getting any work done around here. lol i think i’ve officially given up for the rest of the day. i’m spent. and RQ is probably going to boot me off her site for jumping on and off constantly through the entire day. LOL
October 25th, 2006 at 3:59 pm
are we there yet???????????
I can’t make it through the weekend. I just can’t. COME on CCAA!!!! (and I say that in my most patiently waiting voice)
wfp
October 25th, 2006 at 3:59 pm
tgredthread-i 2nd that..lol..i haven’t been able to focus on anything today =(this is the LONGEST roller coaster ive ever been on!!
LID 8.11.05~
October 25th, 2006 at 4:00 pm
wfp-
and that most patiently waiting voice is like high pitched and around 90db right? ;)
October 25th, 2006 at 4:02 pm
moooooooom are we there yeeeeeet. How much longer daaaaad? LOL, if only it were that easy.
Well if they arrive on Mon that would make it a 5 week wait. Didn’t RQ say that 35 days has been the longest wait so far? Well it’s possible she’ll have a new number to factor in.
October 25th, 2006 at 4:02 pm
tgredthread…When we travel, I always give each kid a roll of nickels. They have to give one back to ask “Are we there yet”. Worked great, but I suppose these days it would have to be quarters!
October 25th, 2006 at 4:03 pm
whining voice……..has anyone heard about the nsn TA’s? puuuulease (in a nice sweet voice)
October 25th, 2006 at 4:05 pm
still a long way off for my 3/06 LID, but i feel the wind blowin’ on my face with y’all on this wild ride! Sending TONS of positive thoughts your way…hang in there all you aug. ’05 LIDers!
October 25th, 2006 at 4:05 pm
well crickety…put me down for about 5$ then. lol
October 25th, 2006 at 4:05 pm
jfkof3, my large, China-only still has not received NSN TAs for last month’s referrals. Still no idea when they might show up. All I’ve heard is that we are within the normal time frame. Weird that so many got theirs sooner though.
October 25th, 2006 at 4:07 pm
sabrecmc, thank you, that helps. jfk
October 25th, 2006 at 4:11 pm
wfp-I am so with you. I’ve told everyone, it will happen this week. I have to go into hiding now. Why did I do that? Stupid, stupid, hobbit. Ok, I’m becoming delirious.
I’m in for $10 in nickles.
October 25th, 2006 at 4:17 pm
I’m so “glad” that we all share the same hope and unpatience :-)
Tg, you’re not the only one jumping constantly on this site.
In the morning at breakfast, at work every 10 minutes, in the evening….and that’s not all.
Last night I dreamt that my referral was on his way and the plane crashed with our file in.
How crazy can you go?
But, there’s is Duch saying : shared suffer, less suffer.
Lid 8/23 and maybe staying up all night…(it’s 10:17 pm here)
October 25th, 2006 at 4:17 pm
Hi all, well i just spoke with our agency on a different matter (related to our US papers) and we were swapping rumors. They said that they were expecting referrals early next week.
Also, they had heard the rumor about switching DTC dates with LID and said it was not a valid rumor because China would not know when the Documents were sent, they would only know when they had arrived and that is a LID.
They said that if there had been switches in LIDs, they would have been notified by now and so would we.
So, I felt better and I do trust our agency.
WHEW, I think I need a break from this. it sure seems like we all do. Maybe I’ll re-read the “I believe” thread from Chaos, what a beautiful stream of thought and what a beautiful group of people. Thank you RQ for attracting all of these positive parents. With all of this great energy, we can create good things! Blessings to all, Jill
October 25th, 2006 at 4:18 pm
coartney-
if it’s any consolation, we did the same thing.
and come to think of it…we probably all did the same thing throughout this wait…telling people “oh it’ll be this time” or “oh probably looking like it’ll happen in …” I think people thought we were crazy and that things wouldn’t happen. so this is no different I guess.
October 25th, 2006 at 4:25 pm
coartney, wfp, tg…and so did we. We told everybody the news that “we’re finally there” and even sent an e-mail to everybody. It was wonderful confirming it on paper :-)
But now, everybody asks us every single minute if we know it yet..can’t take it anymore.
Angelsinpower: nonono! Not next week! I want it now and certainly before the weekend! We’re having 2 pregnant girlfriends coming over for diner and I want to be the one that is “already in labor” :-)
October 25th, 2006 at 4:32 pm
If I have to go through this weekend without knowing I am going to be so insane it might kill my dh. But, why not set a record on how many days between referrals, aren’t we close to setting records for the longest wait?
This is just PAINFUL.
Oh, and try refreshing RQ every 5 minutes with a bunch of kindergarteners around — not easy, but I’m managing it!!
wfp
October 25th, 2006 at 4:49 pm
belgianmomtobe-Wow, having two pregnant friends over for dinner, yikes, that would be the worst. I hope your labor pains start before theirs do. At least I don’t have to deal with any pregnant friends or relatives right now. I’m sure you are happy for them, but it is still a difficult situation. Best of Luck.
October 25th, 2006 at 4:59 pm
Confession..earlier when I sprinkled “fairy dust” it was really vaccum dust…ITS ALL I HAD!!!!!!!! Anyways…I have since literally found fairy dust… and it has been sprinkled appropriately! I realize this is the reason for the delay and I am sorry! Things should resume as normal!
~Tinker Bell’s Cousin
October 25th, 2006 at 5:02 pm
I am so depressed today and just can’t make myself leave my computer..i was so sure we were going to get our referral today..sigh..im getting more depressed as the days go by..hopefully tomorrow will be it…=( but for now im going to try to get up and actually be a good member of society (yea right)
LID 8.11.05–and going crazy
October 25th, 2006 at 5:15 pm
HAHA 2china4chloemadison!!!! I am the same way- I just can’t bring myself to leave the computer!! It’s the only “connection” I feel that I have with our Elizabeth right now. But, at least you can know that you will receive your referral this month!! Ours is EONS away (or at least it feels like it!!!)
His,
Mrs. U
LID 9-12-05
http://www.makingahouseahome.blogspot.com
October 25th, 2006 at 5:18 pm
tg, wfp, coartney and others –
Doubt that the following will do anything to alleviate your wait, but I do remember a day to day wait for our 1st daughter back at the end of 2003. We were fortunate at the time to be getting 1-2 months of DTCs/LIDs each month and our wait had decreased from 12 -14 months down to 8 (sorry, it’s probably all my fault for the slowdown this time around ). DH and I had already planned a last “married but no kids yet” trip to Miami to see 4 shows, live it up with a bunch of friends and have 1 last NYE as a couple. Also at the time, referrals were coming regularly the first week of the month and we had been expecting a referral from December 1 – 7. We left for Miami on the 26th, having left detailed info on where we were staying and how to contact us, still no word. Checked phone messages everyday, nothing. Stayed up ridiculously late all 4 nights, ha, we actually thought this was good practice, but we had NO idea. We ate, we drank, we went to SoBe every day, we saw folks we hadn’t seen in years. I met a member of the band. It was great!!! So January 1 comes around and we just can’t believe we haven’t been called yet (no RQ in those days), so I check our home phone yet again and we’d gotten a call NYE at 10 p.m. OTOH, great that they stayed to called us. OTOH, why not use the contact info we detailed? Who knows? Who cares? We dial nervously but get only a voice mail on the director’s cell phone. Ack!! We can’t leave the room, we don’t want to pee, we call every 5 seconds. FINALLY, she calls us back, we question her a bit (hardly really) and we direct her to our web mail so she can send the pictures. Ok, we think, we’re good, we’ll use the hotel’s internet access and all will be fine. But, oh no, the access isn’t working!!! Nor will it the rest of the time we are there. ack ack ack. Try to find an internet cafe, anything, on New Year’s Day in a strange urban metro area where more people speak portugese than english. Doesn’t happen. Fast forward to 6:30 a.m. the next day, waiting by the gate in the airport for our plane — still not having seen our daughter’s face. hey what’s that thing over there? it’s a guy using a public computer with internet access. ack again. we hover over him in our best “business associates” menacing hover. He finally leaves. But wait — the mouse does not work on the freaking computer. The arrow keys don’t either. WTF! has the universe ill-fated us yet again? NO! DH is a computer guy who knows all the hot keys — yeeha! Our flight is being called but we.get.to.see.her.face!!! Zippity-doo-dah, zippity-day…
So in the end, it was the best trip I’ve ever been on. Time went fast, time went slowly, but bedraggled and bleary-eyed, we became bedazzled. And so will you.
PT
October 25th, 2006 at 5:20 pm
Hey Tinker Bell’s cousin,
We forgive you for sprinkling us with vacuum dust. I figure you’re just a “fairy-in-training”.
And you have a wonderful blog site.
M
October 25th, 2006 at 5:22 pm
think of it this way…. you’ve waited all these months, you are within days, DAYS, of finding out who your little girl is! Wait, take that back, HOURS away… maybe just 24? maybe 48? hang in there guys… hang in there! we are rooting for you and excited as can be!! my caseworker told me she can’t imagine how crazy excited i’ll be when my referral arrives… and i’m bugging her constantly now… with a 9/29/05 LID! it’s CA-RAZY!
October 25th, 2006 at 5:23 pm
PT-Bless you! What a great story. I can’t wait to bedazzled. Thank you for sharing your wonderful experience, and it did help, more than you know.
October 25th, 2006 at 5:32 pm
I swear the closer it gets the harder it gets. Of course I had no idea that this trip was going to be this hard. Didn’t know about the roller coaster in the beginning. Sure we expected a few bumps in the road, but didn’t expect pot holes big enough to lose a guy in. Many have said it will be worth it when we hold our baby, but so hard to think that way right now especially with an 8.30.05 LID that may or may not be correct. I would like to drive up to the Grand Canyon, look over the edge, and just scream I JUST WANT TO BE A MOM! Maybe they could hear me in China.
October 25th, 2006 at 5:35 pm
I have to reply to pettrout’s post with a similar (but not quite as long an painful) situation. We were adopting domestically. We were matched with birthmom and she was due in a week, but thought she would go early. We had a vacation planned for two weeks later. Thought if seh goes early we will run to Kansas get our baby boy wait for ICPC and then head to vacation (we were going to a lake house with all the amenities of home–so not a big deal with a newborn). Well, she didn’t go into labor early, or on time for that matter. And her due date was moved to the week after vacation. So we headed to the lake–with cell phones and laptops in tow. WE arrive on Friday, receive a call on Saturday night–with spotty cell phone coverage–that she is in labor. But don’t come yet (especially since we had two failed placements after birth–we weren’t travelling until papers were signed). Sunday all day we are checking our phones while we try to relax on the lake. No calls–because the cell service STINKS! So we finally drive up the street and get service-call the social worker–nothing yet. So we go back to the lake house, sit the phone in the one place it receives service and wait. Our friends we were with thought we were insane–in a good way! Anyway, we finally get the call that our baby boy was born and everything was fine. they are emailing us pics!!! Now–we thought we will just use dial up from the phone service at the lake house, but discover that it is emergency only phone line, and you cannot dial out. So, we put our 3 yr old son to bed, left our friends there and went on our search for wireless internet access anywhere. it was now about 11:00 pm and we were in the middle of nowhere. My husband has the idea that if we go close to a hotel that has WIFi then we can get in. So, we finally (about 2 hours later) find a hotel with WIFI. WE drove around the parking lot until we got a signal, and we downloaded our baby boys precious pictures!!! It was worth staying up until 4:00 am and then getting up to make an early flight out. Our son is now a year old!!! i know it is not China related but still had to share. We aren’t even DTC yet for China, so we still have a very long wait!!! But I know the wait will be worth it all when we see our beautiful baby GIRLS face!!!
Michelle
October 25th, 2006 at 5:42 pm
Im so excited im about to bust…… Just think! we will all be holding in our hands very soon, pictures of beautiful brown eyed baby girls, hand picked, special for each one of us… It seems like a long almost 2 years but I know the second we look into her eyes and know that she is ours forever …we will all forget this crazy, nerve racking ordeal of the wait. What a blessing she will be..
8/24/05 LID
October 25th, 2006 at 5:51 pm
Dear pettrout,
We too got our call on December 31, 2003 at about 12 noon. My cousin and I were eating lunch at a favorite diner in Celebration (near Walt Disney World). I saw the number and freaked. My social worker said, “You have a girl!” I was thrilled to find out she was a healthy 8 month old from Fuling. It was a great day. Every December 31 since getting Ellie we go to dinner at that Celebration diner….to celebrate!!!
Jeanne
6/15/2006
October 25th, 2006 at 5:51 pm
PT/waitingformolly-
thank you for sharing that with us (and the same waitingformolly). it really does help take the ummm anguish(?) away a bit. and it just goes to prove that just when you think things have gotten excrementy-er (to borrow from mom2isabel) you realise that it’s all been worth it.
awhile back some of us had the ‘running to the finish-line but it kept being pulled away from us’ syndrome. and here we are again feeling alittle that way. but this time it’s for good so I guess I need just stay focused on that. :)
thanks again all of you :)
October 25th, 2006 at 6:50 pm
And I thought I was the only one with an New Years Eve 2003 (December 31, 2003) story. I had gotten home from work early, and DH and I decided to go to a movie. We did not know when to expect “the call.” We decided to not go out to dinner and headed home. The call came about 20 minutes after we got home. I am glad I had the list of questions that someone posted on our DTC group site. We invited a friend over and opened a bottle of champagne. Of course, it was several days before the photo and translated reports came. Even knowing a name, age, and location was amazing.
K.
October 25th, 2006 at 6:55 pm
Yet another person said to me today ” weren’t you thinking about adopting again? ”
My boss said “Is that still going to go through?”
No wonder I am in a state of disbelief/ low emotion (hopelessness?) regarding the process.
I want to feel alive and excited, not all bottled up…sometimes I get a “flash” when I see a referral photo that wakes me from this “sleepwalk”. Can’t remember if it was like this the first time or not.
Anyone else feeling like this?
PJM
October 25th, 2006 at 7:14 pm
PJM:
Yes, you said it perfectly. Sleepwalking explains it well. The question I get is, Do you have your baby yet?
Sooooon, very sooon. I do feel like I’m sleepwalking and others referrals pics and travel journals keep me going.
October 25th, 2006 at 7:47 pm
PJM, I know just how you feel. The other day I told my sister that I’d cleaned ‘Evie’s room’ and my sister said, “Are you still doing that? The adoption thing?”
Uh, no, I just got tired of waiting so I said nevermind…. like waiting in a too long line at the grocery store and walking out.
Is she crazy?? I spent a year on paperwork and state and government clearance, had 6 of my closest friends write referral letters for me, joined a waiting parents group and then *quit my job* in March so that I could be a stay at home mom to my 5 year old daughter, Abby, and her soon-to-arrive sister, Evie. Sheesh. Would I do all of that on a whim?!?!?
I just stopped bringing it up because I was tired of explaining the wait to everyone.
October 25th, 2006 at 9:19 pm
Cheysu -
Your SISTER said that??? Ouch!
I am so sorry. Yikes.
October 25th, 2006 at 9:54 pm
Cheysu-
I had the exact words from my sister-in-law. She has been the most negative person about our adopting. There are others on my husband’s side of the family that made comments when we first started the process because they said we were too old (we were 46 then, now we’re 48), but some of them seem to have come around. But his sister just assumed that we “gave up the idea” because she and others thought we should. So, a few weeks ago when my husband was on the phone with her and he mentioned that we were getting close, her response was “are you still going through with that adoption thing”. It is so hurtful to hear those words. So here’s a cyber hug for you from me, as I totally understand how hurtful words can be.
October 25th, 2006 at 10:37 pm
We just get the thinly veiled eye rolls. Like “yeah sure she’s coming”. Can’t wait to send those people our referral announcement next week!
Chuck
LID 8/18/05