Comments on: Another agency says it’s the 21st

By: Skyler'smom

Skyler'smom — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 18:04:41 +0000

Thanks dmp and RQ……I don’t mean to sound so pessimistic—-sp? I know I’m almost there but this time last year I thought the same thing. :( I just don’t feel like it’s really gotten any closer.

By: RumorQueen

RumorQueen — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 17:15:04 +0000

Some agencies allow you to get pregnant with no problems, some require there be a certain amount of time between adoption and giving birth, and some will kick you out of the program if you get pregnant. Check your contract and talk to your agency.

Russia was practically closed for a while but they have recently (in the past couple of weeks) accredited some agencies to work there. Not sure how stable it is, and I think there have been some conversations about it in the “other countries” section of the forum.

I’ve heard a lot of good things about Ethiopia’s program, that’s probably where I’d start my research if we were thinking of doing this again.

By: mtmomma

mtmomma — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 16:05:19 +0000

rjk: I think this process is 99% politcal (unfortunatley). It’s probably like that in most countries.

dmp: I have heard from someone currently adopting from Russia (as in, she is in the country now), that the Russia program is shutting down. Not sure if it is true, but I do think it is incredibly unstable (more so than China). We had looked at Russia in the beginning and decided not to go with them for that reason. Something to investigate anyway!

By: dmp

dmp — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 14:33:52 +0000

skyler if you get pregnant, you have to start over again at least thats what our adoption agency told us when we asked. You’re only 5 or 6 months away from a referral. I wouldn’t do it.

By: Skyler'smom

Skyler'smom — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 12:40:09 +0000

rjk…..When people ask me now “when” I just simply say “I don’t know, and I’m not making any assumptions anymore”. I’ve been telling people for almost 2 years now…”this spring, this fall, this winter”. I’m over it!! Now it’s just “I DON’T KNOW!”

A question…..does anyone know what happens if you get pregnant during this process? Do you have to start over from square one? Just thinking about trying again because I can’t stand this anymore……….LID 12/20/05

By: threebluesteps

threebluesteps — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 12:31:45 +0000

2brotherswaiting - yes people switch to another program or to SN China. So many have switched or gone elsehwere that many agencies are not currently accepting dossiers for Vietnam.

litmom - I understand what you’re saying about keeping track as a reach for a kind of control — but ,..when you get close to your LID, that scrutiyny is immensely practical for reasons such as job decision and parental leave paperwork. Since last May when Nov 05 began being referred, I noticed the percentage of total Nov-forum-polled dossiers referred each batch, which has been remarkably consistent, and I can see where my referral would fall IF that consistency keeps up. We also had CCAA tell us the the wait would reach 24 months by end of 2007. As the percentage of Nov 05 dossiers referred each month has stayed roughly the same (17-22%), and as that happens to fit the CCAA Dec05-in-Dec07 scenario, I have known for a long time now that an October referral is most likely for me. Each referral batch confirms that.

Because of that, I’ve been able to make some useful concrete (and major) decisions about income flow and parental leave programs.

Perhaps you’re in a luckier situation where you don’t need to have any sense of when your referral will arrive.

By: crankhard

crankhard — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 11:50:47 +0000

2brotherswaiting, our plan is to check the SN list in October or so, which is when I estimate our agency will get the next one, and if our daughter is there, then we will switch to SN. If not, then we will probably switch to Vietnam. Our agency has a very good Vietnam program. I calculate that by the time we renew our China paperwork twice, including medicals, home study, immigration forms, etc., we could adopt from Vietnam and be done with it.

Our LID is 3/29/07.

By: dmp

dmp — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 03:57:25 +0000

rjk, I normally tell my friends who ask why is the wait so long that the China economy is booming and people in China now can afford to keep their kids. I also says its great for China but unfortunately bad for me. I think people understand this reason more than when I throw in Olympics and quota system stuff.
2brothers, I guess my age has something to do with it also, I’m 41 years old, I think if I was in my lower 30’s I might be able to handle the wait better. I always think back when I first had braces. The orthodonists said they would be off in 1 year but I wore them for 3 years just like how this China wait is turning out. Hope that makes sense.

By: 2brotherswaiting

2brotherswaiting — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 03:15:41 +0000

dmp, we are logged in 4/07. Seems like predictions for us are 2010 or worse. I don’t mean to lose hope and I’m sure things will turn around eventually, but I wonder if this is just not the right time to be waiting.

By: rjk

rjk — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 03:14:30 +0000

Does anyone out there think that US-China politics has anything to do with the slowdown? Thoughts on intentional “slow-walking”? Thoughts on the spotlight of the world being on them next year with the Beijing olympics and how all this looks on them (sending out so many girls every month)?

Do any of y’all wonder about how this plays out as far as all these girls just getting older and older in the orphanages until many of them will not be adopted?

What on earth could justify this slowdown?! Lord only knows they have enough people to work in the SWI !!!!!!!!!!!!!! With their population, and system of government, they can make anything happen that they want to!!!

Another question: How do all of y’all who’ve been waiting for a blue-moon answer your friends and family’s questions re: “How much longer? Why is it taking so long? What’s going on in China? ……………”

THOUGHTS???

SOMEBODY REPLY!!!!!!!!!!

THANKS!!