Comments on: Book Review: Siblings Without Rivalry

By: kristimin

kristimin — Tue, 14 Aug 2007 11:10:55 +0000

I also thoroughly recommend this book.
And I found that “How to talk so that children will listen and listen so that children will talk” (by the same authors) was fantastic and worth reading over and over

By: bloominchina

bloominchina — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 21:47:08 +0000

RQ, Thank you for these recommendations! I loved the examples you shared. It seems like common sense, but when in the middle of a situation I imagine common sense can fly out the window! I think sometimes adults react to the situation instead of respond to the kids’ needs. This will be very helpful! Thank you–they are on my list of books to read!

By: kdel

kdel — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 20:22:38 +0000

This is one of my top 5 parenting books as well. I read it recently when we were having our second child and thought it was great…just GREAT advice. Easy to read, common sense stuff but totally had me rethink how to deal with multiple child interactions (I use a lot when dealing with our daughter and her friends fighting as well - it doesn’t even need to be siblings). All the other sibling relationship books out there seem to reference this book which is why I finally looked it up and bought it.

By: 2fromchina

2fromchina — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 14:27:52 +0000

Great Summary RQ! I just wanted to chime in with my 2 cents. This was one of MANY books I had to read throughout my ECE college years. This one remains on my bookshelf and has been read a few times and will be read again.

Great book a must have for anyone with more than one child! Or anyone taking care of more than one child even if they are not your own.

By: 3xwait

3xwait — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 14:20:30 +0000

I read this book while waiting for dd2. I think I will read it again. :)

By: trentsmom

trentsmom — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 14:05:54 +0000

Thanks RQ! I have found books to be the most straight-forward way of learning how to deal with my child (soon to be two children). Look forward to hearing more about what books have helped you - and others - in childrearing.

By: gendvm

gendvm — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 13:25:57 +0000

I just read this book last week. I also re-read the Love and Logic book. Both books are excellent!. We have been dealing with the “tattling” issue. In our house it is usually over minor things - “He took my chair.. .” I have enjoyed telling the tattling child “You guys are really smart and creative, I’m sure you can work out something that is fair” and “I would love to talk about you, but I don’t want to talk about your brother/sister”.. . . .IT”S WORKING! I’m doing less refereeing and they are finding their own solutions!!

Great Books!
GEN LID 3/7/06

By: WaitingforMolly

WaitingforMolly — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 13:07:23 +0000

I have this book on my nightstand and keep telling myslef it is “next”, and I keep purchasing other books that take it’s place as “next”. Now I know that this book will be next. Thanks for the review and the tips, I will definitely start using some of the ideas and then read the book when I am finished with my current book.

Thanks
Michelle
http://www.waitingformolly.blogspot.com

By: mom23boys

mom23boys — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 12:54:40 +0000

RQ, Thanks for the summary! This book sounds great! Reading what you wrote, I think to myself- great point- i know that though! However- in the heat of the “fight”, whining- whatever- one often forgets what the correct thing to say or do when everyone is at wits end! My boys are all under 8 and we have a lot of that “MINE” stuff going on. At the beginning of the summer we did make everything communal except for their special toys which are now kept in a special bin under each of their beds. It has made a lot of difference. This has helped my middle son out tremendously. He was always scared that the “baby” (3 year old) would ruin his toys and he was always worried that his toys would end up in his older brother’s collection since he has a bigger collection. He feels much calmer now and in control.

By: TrulyBlessed

TrulyBlessed — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 12:02:18 +0000

Very interesting. This is a book I would have purchased in a heartbeat when my boys were younger. Good information for everyone, though. I think I’ll put it on hold at the library!