Today’s News
Someone reported yesterday that their agency said January 10th would be included in this next batch. This is an early rumor, from one agency. Please treat it accordingly.
Also, it appears that The Netherlands government is going to talk to the CCAA about the allegations and allow the CCAA to respond. Nothing is going to be done at this time in regards to stopping adoptions.
And finally, GlitterGirl has pink eye and I am home with both girls today. I’m letting them watch Kai Lan right now and so I have time to get on the computer while they watch. I do not plan to be on the computer much today, though I will check in periodically and see what is going on.
March 18th, 2008 at 11:31 am
woohoo…..come on the 12th!!!!!! The 10th would be good but the 12th would be awesome!!!!!
March 18th, 2008 at 11:32 am
RQ….hope glitter girl feels better soon!
March 18th, 2008 at 11:42 am
get well soon little girl
March 18th, 2008 at 11:46 am
There was also a posting yesterday in the general discussion section of the forum– i think the thread name was something like ‘ news from my agency’ or ‘ i’m confused about my agency’ and the poster said that her agency reported that the next cutoff was the 6th. I’m wondering if that rumor has any legs ( i hope not, obviously) or if it’s being given less weight than the ‘10th is the cutoff’ rumor.
both rumors make sense to me — the 10th makes sense based on poll numbers and the 6th makes sense based on last year’s teeny April batch.
I hope GG feels better!
March 18th, 2008 at 11:47 am
RQ I hope your little one is feeling better soon..
So would this be considered our first Rumor for this next group of referrals?
I am trying to remain calm but that is easier said then done…
March 18th, 2008 at 11:48 am
sorry …
LID 1/10/06
for Sophia
March 18th, 2008 at 12:02 pm
Come on Jan 12th!!!! Let’s get another 8 day batch in there. No going backwards allowed!!!
LID Feb 07 (50.75 eight day batches away)
March 18th, 2008 at 12:18 pm
I checked my friend’s agency site again today and it still says they expect up to 1-10. I hope it is more, but I am going by this for now. Thanks for everyone’s kind words. I needed that. We are waiting for our first baby and had many years of infertility. I know we have a long road ahead.
Our log in date is 1-17-07. Our agency is having another support group meeting in a couple of weeks and it helps to talk to others in our situation.
March 18th, 2008 at 12:22 pm
It’ s only half-way through March - I am hoping that this report is only for what they have done so far… and that they will be able to do MORE than just 6 days… So frustrating.
I’ll be holding my breath and turning blue…
March 18th, 2008 at 12:44 pm
I am thinking the 10th myself….hoping for more.
March 18th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
LID date 1/12/06 I guess I set up the crib too prematurely! It is going to be a long two weeks.
March 18th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
Let’s say come on February 25th! I can dream, can’t I?
March 18th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
Wishing for everyone it goes to at least the 10th or more!
RQ - hope little Glitter Girl is feeling better soon.
March 18th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
kyleigh-
If we get referrals up to Feb 25th, first I’ll collapse; then I’ll start screaming, Oh my god!!! Oh my god!!!; and then I’ll take the rest of the day off of work to go celebrate for you and all of us who follow (definitely an occassion for Margaritas)
Honestly, if they refer up to JAN 25th, I’ll do the same thing :)
It never hurts to dream.
LID Feb 07
March 18th, 2008 at 2:09 pm
oops, I think I used a word I’m not supposed to…sorry.
kyleigh–
If we get referrals through Feb 25, first I’ll collapse; then I’ll start screaming OMG, OMG!!! And then I’ll take the rest of the day off of work to celebrate for you and for those of us who follow. Definitely an event that calls for Margaritas!
Honestly, if they match through JAN 25th, I’ll do the same thing.
It never hurts to dream.
LID Feb 07
March 18th, 2008 at 2:18 pm
Does anyone know what this agencies next LID’s are after 1/10?
March 18th, 2008 at 2:26 pm
Next week we get new Ni Hao Kai-Lan shows!
March 18th, 2008 at 3:10 pm
I’ll take the 10th, but would LOVE to make it past the horrid case for once! Let’s at least make it to “bad case”!
March 18th, 2008 at 4:34 pm
I will be incredibly happy to get to 1/10, but ecstatic to see the CCAA get to 1/12 or even further. This has been a long road for all of us, now we need to keep moving ahead with at least 8 day batches every month.
Susan
LID /10/06 for LilyKate
March 18th, 2008 at 4:47 pm
I am trying so hard not to get my hopes up but with so many dissappointments recently in my life I want so desperately for this wait to be over. Just to get to see a picture of our little girl will be the best feeling since our twin boys were born 10 years ago!!
LID 1/10/06
March 18th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
Come on, Jan 12th!
I believe, I believe, I believe!
love,
Hopeful :)
March 18th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
Ooooh, I am so hoping for an 8 day batch!!!!
I just went and did a very unscientific day count to see if the CCAA continued doing 8 day batches how many more months the wait would be. It is depressing, but not as depressing as the fact that at some point in time I made a note in my 2007 day planner and circled July 2008…put stars around it, drew arrows to it and wrote Ash. It has a note about 13 day batches…LOLOLOLOLOL
I wonder when I was that optimistic?
LID May 10, 2006
March 18th, 2008 at 6:27 pm
Don’t worry about setting up the crib prematurely, mine has been up for almost a year. I look at it this way, it is a great place to store things…
March 18th, 2008 at 6:34 pm
Our crib has been up since 2006… With a LID of 1/16, maybe a child will be occupying it soon instead of just stuffed animals!
March 18th, 2008 at 6:59 pm
…Here is a great idea…this would a good month for the CCAA to start with 15 day batches….. we have speculated since who knows when….when they would…just take the plunge CCAA….
March 18th, 2008 at 7:00 pm
Here is a great idea…this would a good month for the CCAA to start with 15 day batches….. we have speculated since who knows when….when they would…just take the plunge CCAA….
March 18th, 2008 at 7:02 pm
Thank you for reporting this early rumor, RQ. We all hope for a large number. I hope GG is doing better, as pink eye can be frustrating to adults, let alone children.
March 18th, 2008 at 7:08 pm
Please, please. Make it to 01-11-06!!! Please!!!
March 18th, 2008 at 7:14 pm
I know how everyone feels. We got a new hardwood floor and painted the nursery when we thought the wait was 12 months. My plan was to do something every 3 months to make the year pass quickly. The room has not been touched for many months. It is so difficult to see an empty nursery. I am so glad we don’t have a crib. I keep the door closed as much as possible. I keep thinking positive . I REALLY hope things pick up after the March group. I know this will be at least 12-15 months away. I heard from our agency this is what they are hoping too. I know it is far away, but maybe it will cut months from the wait. I will definately take a referral early 2011 instead of early 2012. I used the bright outlooks today to figure out the wait time for Jan. 2007 and it was 2-2012!!. This is if nothing changes. I can’t imagine that. That is 3 more homestudy updates and 2 more I-800’s. As of April 1st, the I-600 becomes an I-800 under the new Hague.
March 18th, 2008 at 7:44 pm
I hope you feel better GlitterGirl..
Hoping for the 10th, but praying for longer..If you are gonna wish, then wish big…
sophismom
lid 8.10.06
http://www.sophibryant.com
March 18th, 2008 at 7:46 pm
I know everyone is looking for referals however does anyone have any information on the review room. I just can’t wait to clear this date let alone get a referal. I keep telling myself all good things take time.
LID December 2006
March 18th, 2008 at 8:15 pm
I Believe, I believe, I believe……sprinkling magic fairy dust everywhere.
What is the significance of dragon flies? I had one land on my hand and stay there quiet content for a length of time…even time to get the camera out and take a happy snap one handed.
As for the nursery, all ready to go except the crib which has progressed to being out of its box, but still stacked waiting for assembly. I’m too scared to erect it too soon.
Common CCAA roll out at least to the 12th?????
March 19th, 2008 at 9:47 am
For those concerned about already having put up cribs, painted, or put down flooring, that just means more time for all the plastics, etc. to air out before you put your baby in them!
March 19th, 2008 at 9:56 am
Well This is the first time I have ever posted. Although I have been reading for 2 years now.
Thank you for always keeping us updated RQ, without you we would be left in the dark by our agency never to be seen or heard from again!
I am so extremly dissapointed of the wait times. When my husband and I started the process the wait was 6 months back in 2005. It took us nearly a year to finish all the paperwork required with little to no help from our agency after recomm. from others and extended research on the different agencies. Our LID is 3/22/07. Reading the previous post of 2012 just put it into a perspective that I was not prepared to look at. I try not to get caught up in all the What Ifs, but so far it has been overwhelming. This will be our first and prob only child. With a wait of 4 years plus I cannot imagine or even think about having to go through all of this a second time. Our latest attitude is well, if we EVER get her it will be a miracle. My husband and I new for the last 4 years that we wanted to adopt from China. We chose the IA program with China knowing that it would be a painless process. When will it all stop! When will we ever be given answers that are reasonable. I mean all of this has hit me like a ton of bricks!! :-( I think with anything in life we as human beings are always seeking the truth and always looking for answers.)
I just feel We deserve answers or explanations good or bad regarding the IA program with China. It is so hard to be positive when there is nothing positive about the program at hand! Please someone give us some words of encouragement!!!! I am reaching out and having a moment. People are always asking and I hate repeating the answers over and over. Had we known the wait we would not have told everyone. We pray everyday that something good will happen with the program. Right now it is not looking promising!
March 19th, 2008 at 10:45 am
Savinggrace I don’t have the answers you want, but I do know how you feel it has been 26 months since LID for us and the wait is hard. I found dealing with all the people asking when when when was the worst to deal with. Hang in there and keep remebering that a little one is just as unhappy about this wait as you are but she has to wait also. The road is long but the gift at the end will be so worth the wait. Lisa
March 19th, 2008 at 10:48 am
savinggrace - the CCAA has said that those who are willing to wait it out WILL get a referral. We personally believe that things will start to move faster after the olympics are over. You have to trust that your child will come into your family at just the perfect time, though it may not be the time we all wish for. Use the wait time as a time of preparation to help you become the best parent you can be for her. I don’t mean only preparing the nursery and a layette. I mean reading and praying and building a network of supportive friendships, etc. You will get the child you long for. And, when she comes, you will look back on the wait and think that it was very hard, but well worth it. Hang in there.
Kelly LID 7/23/2007
March 19th, 2008 at 10:53 am
Savinggrace - the CCAA has said that those who are willing to wait this out WILL get a referral. We trust that that is true. We also personally believe that things will start to speed up after the Olympics. Though the wait time looks dreadful and the questions are painful reminders, know that the child meant for your family will come into your family at the perfect time–not the time we may have wanted, but it will be the perfect time. In the meantime, see the wait time as a time of preparation to make you the best mom you can be for your child. I don’t mean only preparing a nursery and a layette. I mean reading, researching, building a network of supportive friends, praying, etc. When the wait is over and you hold your heart’s desire, you will look back and know that the wait was terribly hard but incredibly worth every minute. Hang in there.
Kelly
LID 7/23/2007
March 19th, 2008 at 11:31 am
Saving grace…thinking of you…i know how you feel..we all do……this has been the pits…but this will end GOOD!@!!!!!!!!!
March 19th, 2008 at 11:38 am
savinggrace-
It’s going to be okay. My LID is Feb 07, so I’m right there with you. I think “Wait4ever” is Jan 07. If it helps, you’re not alone. And it’s good you’ve decided to join in this group.
Unfortunately, it sounds like you have a bad agency; but we can find you other means of receiving information (like this site). As for your family, friends, etc., just tell them the truth. “It’s probably going to take another 4 years or so. We’ll let you know if we hear something new.”
Listen to your heart. Is it telling you to wait for your little girl in China or look at other programs that may work better for you? If you listen hard enough, you’ll know the answer. And then follow it. If you do want to stick with China, then start setting up your “survival gear”. Find support groups. Become part of the adoption community. Figure out what will most help you and your husband get through the wait. And remember, your child may not be in your life yet; but she is already in your heart. Let her give you the strength you need to find your way to her.
March 19th, 2008 at 11:40 am
Thank you so much for those words of encouragement. I really need them right now. I will continue with the prep. for our little girl. I just hope and pray that you are right. My husband always says we are not waiting for her, she is waiting for us, imagine how she feels….Thank you again for your kindness. LID 3/22/07
March 19th, 2008 at 12:18 pm
SavingGrace,
I think support groups will help if you can find one. I know how you feel. This is our first baby too. I can’t count the tears anymore or lost sleep. I keep hoping that things will speed up. I doubt it will be right afer the Olympics. I do think it will be after March is done. I know that will take through next summer probably. The hardest part are the Holidays and people asking “did you get your baby yet??” It is hard to explain how a one year wait is now 3-4.5 years. I just try to concentrate on positive things. I have a wonderful husband and we are enjoying our “alone” time and little things like sleeping in on the weekends. Someday there will be a little one waking us up!! Please write to me anytime you need support!! Hang in there. Also, try to plan things to do every three months or so. You will be suprised how fast the time goes. God Bless.
March 19th, 2008 at 3:36 pm
Hoping, wishing, PRAYING…….. lets get a decent amount of lid’s referred……………..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Shelley
March 19th, 2008 at 8:47 pm
i hope the 12 ????????
Ciro and mary
dont worry we so close
i(my sweet daughter)
March 20th, 2008 at 11:34 am
savinggrace… we had a LID of 11-05. When we signed up in March 05 we were told the wait time was 6 months. We actually dragged our feet on the paperwork because we felt we needed a bit more time. We never, ever, expected a 20 month wait. This said, we are now home with our amazing daughter. She is the joy in our lives and we can’t imagine life without her. Our agency pretty much left us in the dark. The long wait and crushing uncertainty caused me to sink into a deep depression. I wasted almost a year of my life surfing the internet looking for answers. Go on with your life and know that you will eventually be a mom. The wait will be worth it. I promise you.
March 20th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
To savinggrace and those of you waiting on your first child–
My thoughts are with you, and I wish I knew what to say. A forum friend, also waiting on her first, posted the other day, “I suppose nothing wonderful is easy.”
I’m sorry that your “something wonderful” is taking so much time and heartache. I promise you that the love you will feel will be so emcompassing that this hurt will no longer matter.
Hugs,
Christina
LID 05/18/06