Comments on: Questions http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/ Join the Rumor Queen as she looks for the latest rumors and then analyzes them, trying to figure out what the CCAA will do next. Mon, 15 Mar 2010 00:39:28 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: sulamie http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56429 sulamie Thu, 21 Aug 2008 18:53:55 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56429 I will try to remember that when carrying on my cyber conversations. My own post was in moderation, btw. I hope others will remember that just because someone mentions God in a post it doesn't mean they are preaching or carrying on a religious discussion. Re-read RQ's rules - it doesn't say you can't mention God at all. I can understand everyone being upset about the post placement, but slamming her on the other stuff was uncalled for. I will try to remember that when carrying on my cyber conversations. My own post was in moderation, btw.

I hope others will remember that just because someone mentions God in a post it doesn’t mean they are preaching or carrying on a religious discussion. Re-read RQ’s rules – it doesn’t say you can’t mention God at all. I can understand everyone being upset about the post placement, but slamming her on the other stuff was uncalled for.

]]> By: waiting4Ash http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56416 waiting4Ash Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:17:01 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56416 Hellofrompgh, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for contacting your agency!!!! Jess, Nicely said! sulamie, Please remember that certain key words, known only to RQ, trigger a post to be "moderated". When I posted HOURS before Hellofrompgh responded, my response was placed on moderation. If you have never had a post placed on moderation it means that you must wait for RQ to approve it. I would be willing to bet that some of the other responses you are referring to were also on "moderation" and therefore a delayed response. Another of the small things to keep in the back of our minds when carrying on a cyber conversation. Hellofrompgh,
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for contacting your agency!!!!

Jess,
Nicely said!

sulamie,
Please remember that certain key words, known only to RQ, trigger a post to be “moderated”. When I posted HOURS before Hellofrompgh responded, my response was placed on moderation. If you have never had a post placed on moderation it means that you must wait for RQ to approve it. I would be willing to bet that some of the other responses you are referring to were also on “moderation” and therefore a delayed response.

Another of the small things to keep in the back of our minds when carrying on a cyber conversation.

]]> By: sulamie http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56414 sulamie Thu, 21 Aug 2008 04:55:51 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56414 For goodness sake people! She already explained herself and said she WOULD file the post placement. Why don't you cut her some slack? Everyone has different/complex emotions as a result of going through this! I have never posted here before - not ever - but I can't believe the way you are attacking her and twisting her words! It's pretty obvious why, too (and it's not the post placement thing). Why don't we move on now and be nice, okay? For goodness sake people! She already explained herself and said she WOULD file the post placement. Why don’t you cut her some slack? Everyone has different/complex emotions as a result of going through this! I have never posted here before – not ever – but I can’t believe the way you are attacking her and twisting her words! It’s pretty obvious why, too (and it’s not the post placement thing). Why don’t we move on now and be nice, okay?

]]> By: Jess http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56412 Jess Thu, 21 Aug 2008 01:27:04 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56412 hellofrompgh, thanks for the apology and for being big enough to reconsider and send in your post placement reports. I would think that seeing happy children would encourage IA, not discourage it. That's a way to get a message back to China. Also, no one has a problem with you holding strong views about God, but when everyone talks about their religious views, it tears apart cohesiveness in diverse groups. What DOES hold us together is a love of the children of China (and I dare say for children from around the world). There are others here with strong religious views the same or similar to yours, but they understand that bringing them up lends itself to flame wars, which deflects attention from the reason we're here: to support each other (which includes venting sometimes), educate each other, and promote adoption of children needing loving homes. If you're strong in your faith, then you know what you know and can keep a quiet surety without making others feel uncomfortable. I hope you understand. The rules truly are to help everyone feel welcome and comfortable and to keep the focus on our common bond. hellofrompgh, thanks for the apology and for being big enough to reconsider and send in your post placement reports. I would think that seeing happy children would encourage IA, not discourage it. That’s a way to get a message back to China.
Also, no one has a problem with you holding strong views about God, but when everyone talks about their religious views, it tears apart cohesiveness in diverse groups. What DOES hold us together is a love of the children of China (and I dare say for children from around the world). There are others here with strong religious views the same or similar to yours, but they understand that bringing them up lends itself to flame wars, which deflects attention from the reason we’re here: to support each other (which includes venting sometimes), educate each other, and promote adoption of children needing loving homes. If you’re strong in your faith, then you know what you know and can keep a quiet surety without making others feel uncomfortable. I hope you understand. The rules truly are to help everyone feel welcome and comfortable and to keep the focus on our common bond.

]]> By: cdnmo22 http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56411 cdnmo22 Thu, 21 Aug 2008 00:50:46 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56411 KarenInCa, you took the words out of my mouth. I would have to say a future child would be out of the question nes pas? KarenInCa, you took the words out of my mouth.
I would have to say a future child would be out of the question nes pas?

]]> By: KarenInCa http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56409 KarenInCa Wed, 20 Aug 2008 23:26:06 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56409 Also if you do your research, China is a country that embraces Communism, but not all people can be of the Communist Party. But they also embrace christianity, buddhism and muslim religions, debending on the region. I wonder which part of China you can hate with all of that in the mix. And how do you seperate it. If you ask a Chinese person that IS in the Communist party in China, they will tell you that they love their country and their identity. Not everyone in China is kept down. In fact, those that do join the Party are the priviliged ones. And it seems that most Chinese are proud of their country. OK so I guess I said more than just "WOW" but.....WOW I hope you find peace, hellofrompgh. Also if you do your research, China is a country that embraces Communism, but not all people can be of the Communist Party. But they also embrace christianity, buddhism and muslim religions, debending on the region. I wonder which part of China you can hate with all of that in the mix. And how do you seperate it. If you ask a Chinese person that IS in the Communist party in China, they will tell you that they love their country and their identity. Not everyone in China is kept down. In fact, those that do join the Party are the priviliged ones. And it seems that most Chinese are proud of their country.
OK so I guess I said more than just “WOW” but…..WOW
I hope you find peace, hellofrompgh.

]]> By: KarenInCa http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56408 KarenInCa Wed, 20 Aug 2008 23:14:10 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56408 All I can say is "WOW!" Your daughter is going be very confused. Her first parents are possibly Communists. And even if they are not, no one will really know, and your daugher will have to assume that they are. As an adopted individual, it's already confusing for them to find themselves as adopted children come of age.....You are teaching her to hate her first parents, because she will have to assume that China = conmunsm = first parents. I think the key here is respect. I've seen posts on forums from angry adoptees. The attitude I'm witnessing is an angry adoptee cocktail in the making. All I can say is “WOW!”
Your daughter is going be very confused. Her first parents are possibly Communists. And even if they are not, no one will really know, and your daugher will have to assume that they are. As an adopted individual, it’s already confusing for them to find themselves as adopted children come of age…..You are teaching her to hate her first parents, because she will have to assume that China = conmunsm = first parents.
I think the key here is respect.
I’ve seen posts on forums from angry adoptees. The attitude I’m witnessing is an angry adoptee cocktail in the making.

]]> By: Jess http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56406 Jess Wed, 20 Aug 2008 22:02:48 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56406 KareninCA, I'm with you. I was more than happy to send in my post-placement reports. I am a little disappointed I can't keep sending them in, showing how proud I am of these incredible girls I'm privileged to raise. I think showing how much pride and love we have for our children shows they are valued, that they are important, that they matter and that we are treating them with that in mind. I think it's just another chance for me to brag, really, and I never miss a chance at that! KareninCA, I’m with you. I was more than happy to send in my post-placement reports. I am a little disappointed I can’t keep sending them in, showing how proud I am of these incredible girls I’m privileged to raise. I think showing how much pride and love we have for our children shows they are valued, that they are important, that they matter and that we are treating them with that in mind. I think it’s just another chance for me to brag, really, and I never miss a chance at that!

]]> By: wait4ever http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56405 wait4ever Wed, 20 Aug 2008 21:22:39 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56405 hellofrompgh, I am very happy to hear that you have changed your mind on doing the post-placement reports. Thank you. hellofrompgh,
I am very happy to hear that you have changed your mind on doing the post-placement reports. Thank you.

]]> By: pandamomma http://chinaadopttalk.com/2008/08/19/questions/comment-page-2/#comment-56403 pandamomma Wed, 20 Aug 2008 20:46:49 +0000 http://chinaadopttalk.com/?p=1770#comment-56403 For someone who professes to be filled with the love of God, you sure use the word "HATE" an awful lot. How sad for you. For someone who professes to be filled with the love of God, you sure use the word “HATE” an awful lot. How sad for you.

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