Wednesday morning rumors
I don’t see anything new about the cut off this morning.
FWIW, I’m still seeing people who are hearing from their agency about things speeding up a little. No one is saying anything is going to speed up this month, more like it is on the horizon. If I had to guess, based on what has come to me, I’d guess that once (if) things pick up that they may do something in the range of 10 to 15 days at a time. It’s an educated guess, but still just a guess.
I will say it again, we’ve seen the “speed up rumors” before and then not seen them come to fruition. I worry about reporting them, because I don’t want to get hopes up if this is another of those times. But, it is coming from multiple agencies, and as I’ve said before, it feels different than it has in the past. Not something to bank on, just something to keep an eye on.
As for specific rumors about this batch… Nada.
Someone asked yesterday if it has ever been this quiet before. Yes, it has. Every five or six months it seems we have a month of almost total silence.
February 25th, 2009 at 9:15 am
….and the saga continues. Thanks RQ.
February 25th, 2009 at 10:06 am
Big sighhhh
February 25th, 2009 at 10:12 am
WOW. I wonder where the “horizon” is.
Thanks RQ.
February 25th, 2009 at 10:24 am
i think the “speed-up” rumors are for when march is done.
april and may combined are probably smaller than march. and, there’s like a 10 day stretch starting 4/30 that has very few LID’s due to vacation i believe so when i figure out how many days before me i always exclude those 10 days to make myself feel better ;-)
February 25th, 2009 at 10:46 am
I wish we hear something soon this driving me crazy and I don’t think we are in because 7th is a big batch and I just want to know why is it so quiet just wierd!
February 25th, 2009 at 10:58 am
Yes, I agree — any speed up is probably for when March is done.
I sure hope the lack of rumors means they are still matching! I would LOVE to get to the 7th and be beyond THRILLED to get past the 7th!!
Waiting in Texas
March 21, 2006
February 25th, 2009 at 11:24 am
This mid-winter holiday will probably be spent in close compay with the Internet, searching for news. It seems like we’re holding our breath around the world, waiting for the 7th to pass.
Waiting in Norway
3/21
February 25th, 2009 at 12:46 pm
Hope springs eternal?
February 25th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
The factors seem to be in place for a speed up to occur: a deteriorating economic situation in China, a 67% increase in orphanage fees and continued attrition of prospective parents.
February 25th, 2009 at 1:53 pm
I have a question… we just started seeing the “matching has begun” rumor last week… what is the matching dept doing each month before they start “matching”. One would think that everyday they would be working on matching. Finish one and move on to the next pile… what are they doing the 2 weeks they ane not “matching”? reviewing again? waiting for baby files???
February 25th, 2009 at 1:56 pm
Joysmom – you might want to check out the Import Posts section in the right hand column, there is a post there explaining how the matching room works.
February 25th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
Maybe they are looking at thje waiting parents files to see who is possibly up next so when they receive the kids files they are ready to beginning matching baby to families. Just a thought.
February 25th, 2009 at 3:00 pm
I just realized that 3/3/06 LID’s are six days away from hitting a three year wait. I’m sure that hasn’t escaped them!
February 25th, 2009 at 3:42 pm
Hey Acrtic,
You are so right, it does feel like the world is “holding their breath,” especially with this silence.
Here’s to getting past the 7th without turning blue!
Moonpie
3/21/06
February 25th, 2009 at 4:04 pm
I have watched this site for almost 3 years now. Yesterday was my first post and our LID is 3/7/2006. My wife and I began the process over 3 1/2 years ago at an orientation meeting in August 2005. Back then the wait was 14 months start to finish. Prior to that we had 3 years of unsuccesful fertility treatment.
Now, we are on the verge of a referral, and things have gone quiet. This wait is interminable!!!!
February 25th, 2009 at 4:19 pm
Sadies Dad: I read your post and marveled at the similarities between your journey and ours. We also began in August 2005 with a workshop and were DTC 2.13.06 and LID on 3.7.06. A unexpected pregnancy bumped our LID to 4.5.06, so we have a ways to go.
Hang in there – you are so close and have come so far!!
February 25th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
Started in Aug. 05, LID 3/7/06 — yep, that’s us too! Just wanted to say hello also. The wait is really getting to me today, too — so close and yet so far! I am so grateful to RQ and the community here. I don’t post often at all, but it helps more than I can say to have this site to turn to.
February 25th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
My first time submiting a comment after being a reader for over 3 years. This site is our only source for news. It helps to know I am not the only one heartbroken. My LID is 10.13.06. We started the process a few years before that. We are married 13 years & waiting for our first. Same as everyone we have been through alot. Also logged in w/ Tawaiin, and now that is backed up as well. Something as simple as wanting to be a parent should not be so difficult. Please Please I pray something changes, this is all just so unbelievable & unfair…
February 25th, 2009 at 6:31 pm
My agency yesterday said that a package is on the way but they do not know what is in the package. Good Luck all of March 2006 families!
February 25th, 2009 at 6:41 pm
If we hit 10 days I will run out into the street and scream with joy. If we hit 15 days, I will run out into the street and scream with joy naked.
3/20/2007
February 25th, 2009 at 6:52 pm
Stilllwaiting…I can feel the pain in your words. We have been married 20 years and still waiting for our first child. Not that it is any easier for those that already have children (let’s not get that post started again!!!!).
If you believe in your heart that you will be a parent and pray for Him to deliver that child to you, it will happen. I’ve decided to stay positive throughout this and to be grateful to have the chance to even pursue this option, regardless of how long it takes.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Susan
LID 06-10-06
February 25th, 2009 at 6:56 pm
Stillwaiting,
We are in the same boat. Married 13 years waiting on our first. Our agency does not allow concurrent adoptions. Did you use same agency for both? What is their concurrent adopton policy? If anyone has any info about this please let me know. I fiind it so disheartening that an agency can control this process and our lives so much.
LID 4-16-07
February 25th, 2009 at 7:10 pm
Susan,
You brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for the kind words. We all need to try to be optimistic but it gets very difficult some days.
Banany66,
I used 2 differant agencies. The same agency for the homestudy, since the Tawaiin agency was out of state.I believe China now allows concurrent adoptions. I hope so, that is what I was told…
No matter what- it is all just a leap of faith at this point…
LID 10-13-06
February 25th, 2009 at 7:11 pm
LouiseMe, thank you for making me laugh.. I really enjoyed your post. Best on thus far in the last few days..LOL
We have been waiting 15 months and do so hope that they do have a huge batch coming soon.. Congrats to all who will be in the next batch..
11-23-07
February 25th, 2009 at 7:18 pm
I should have said our agency does not allow us to go to any other agency for concurrent adoption. Yes China does allowit, our agency does not.They will allow us to domestic adopt with their agency for harder to place children. That is what I mean about their amount of control. any one have any advice? We were thinking about Korea.
February 25th, 2009 at 7:33 pm
scdotson,
Can you tell us what the next LID is for your agency?
Thanks.
Luna
3/8/06
February 25th, 2009 at 7:50 pm
My son and his wife went 41 months from LID to family day 06/12/08. Hang in there everyone.
February 25th, 2009 at 8:01 pm
Banany, did your agency tell you their reasons for not allowing you to use another agency for a concurrent from China?
If you’re in the US, I’m wondering if your state laws really allow agencies to impose this kind of restriction. How do agencies do this?
February 25th, 2009 at 8:02 pm
Sorry, I meant “concurrent” on it’s own – not necessarily from China.
February 25th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
Stillwaiting and others, hang in there! Your time will truly come. One of the reasons that I still read RQ even my children are a bit older is that we struggled through 11 years of infertility before we tried adoption. We (only) waited 1 year for each child, but each year had its own drama and challenges. The waiting was very intense. I literally never thought I could be a mother, so adoption for me was a miracle, in the literal sense.
If it could happen for me it will happen for you as well.
Something good is in the air, on its way, it sounds like. It may take a day, a week, a month, or even a year but it will arrive for you. Chinese adoption may be slow, but it has been very certain.
These children are amazing, but it is hard to explain until you experience it. Until my first daughter was placed into my arms, I could not believe it could really happen. She was absolutely everything I ever wanted in a child, ever — smart, funny in a quirky way, sweet, adorable. I was even secretly afraid that I would not be able to love our second daughter as much, then we received her. And she was also just incredible — classically beautiful, silly, stubborn, graceful.
So the wait is the price we must pay for our priceless children. As I have said before here, when biological mothers go on about pregnancy and labor, I think of my waiting periods. There were real and they were hard. I waited and it hurt.
February 25th, 2009 at 8:43 pm
Beautiful, moonwater. Thank you.
Can’t wait to see what’s in the air to scdotson’s agency – and all of our agencies, I hope!
February 25th, 2009 at 9:16 pm
Banany66,
I am so sorry that your agency is trying to stop you from a concurrent adoption. That seems very unfair, have you talked with a lawyer?
I am not sure what we would have done if we could not have done a concurrent adoption. We are thinking of starting our second adoption from Ethiopia while we leave our dossier in China.
Leah
http://www.adopthope.blogspot.com/
February 25th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
I am thinking I should press my agency for reasons why they do not allow concurrent adoptions. Ask them if this is legal and possibly talk to a lawyer. Thanks for the support everyone. This is why I love this site. Here is to our patience and hopr that we ALL will be rewarded soon.
February 25th, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Leah
Congratulations! I looked at your website and your daughter is beautiful!! I did think the photo was a gap ad!
The baby shower photos look precious and the cupcakes are like giraffes?
Louise
February 26th, 2009 at 11:30 am
Moonwater…”the price we pay for our priceless children” so true and so eloquently stated. Thank you!
LouiseMe: thanks for the laugh this morning!
February 26th, 2009 at 11:48 am
Thankyou Everyone!
Moonwater, you sound like a poet…
very lovely, thank you.