Going back to China
GlitterGirl and I were having a talk about China the other day. And I mentioned that it would be another two years before we get to go back again.
And her eyes get huge and she very forcefully says “we’re not getting another little sister!”
She loves her little sister, but the adjustment has been difficult.
August 5th, 2007 at 3:21 pm
I was the second youngest of five and was thrilled at the age of 5 to finally have someone younger than me but I do remember the story my mom told about my oldest brother when she came home from the hospital with my older sister. He took one look at her and said, “Hers all red mommy. Let’s take her back!” Of course my mom said she was all red from crying which probably did not endear her to him. Hope GG finds being a big sister as much fun as I did.
6564miles
August 6th, 2007 at 8:52 am
Our 13 1/2 yo has the same reaction. Although she absolutely adores her sister and can’t seem to tire of her, she has made it clear that she does not want to do this again. When we started out we asked for twins or siblings and I definitely saw us having tow chinese daughters to grow up together and that is still my hope. And since 13yo was my biggest advocate in convincing Dad to adopt, it is hard not having her on my team. So I am hoping that she comes around before too long. But I guess the adjustment is tough at any age losing your place as the baby and sharing your parents. I realized the other day that she used to sleep with me when Dad was out of town and now that we have a baby in the bed, that does not happen anymore. Her life has changed alot in 7 or 8 months.
August 6th, 2007 at 11:58 am
Oh, RQ… I think that is great news that you are considering going back for #3!!! Fantastic! I’m sorry GG doesn’t agree. I’m sure she will come around.
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August 6th, 2007 at 12:10 pm
Oh no, we aren’t talking about #3, it will just be that long before I think we’ll make a trip back with the whole family.
August 6th, 2007 at 12:11 pm
I should add, RK has informed me that we are done. And while I’d love to add a little brother into the mix, I think he may be right.
August 7th, 2007 at 5:32 am
And how did Glittergirl think about getting a sister before you went to China to get her? My daughter is really looking forward to getting a little sister, but if we went now she would also be very jealous I know for sure.
Well, she will be five before we will get to China (if your latest projections ar right) so maybe those issues are a bit less than.
I can’t figure out from your postings how old Glittergirl is. You are talking about diapers and elementaryschool at the same time which confuses me. In the Netherlands children are four before they go to school. Maybe in the US school starts earlier?
Greetings, and thanks for these insights in your family.
Chinalotus
August 7th, 2007 at 7:25 am
Glittergirl is not in diapers anymore, she is in elementary school.
TwinkleToes is two and is still in diapers. GlitterGirl was potty trained by the time she was the age TwinkleToes is now, but she also got a family a lot younger than TwinkleToes did.
GlitterGirl was very, very, very, excited about getting a baby sister. And she does love her sister very much, but the transition has been (and still is) difficult.
August 7th, 2007 at 10:50 am
Sorry I must have misread one of your posts,
Thanks,
Chinalotus
August 7th, 2007 at 12:44 pm
I think you should go back to China for #3! :) Hopefully the transition for GG will start to get a lot easier.
August 8th, 2007 at 8:32 pm
Oops, Sorry RQ for assuming you were going for #3.
2 is a good number, I think. I would settle for 1 right now. Although DH said out of the blue this morning, “Ya know we’ll have to go back for number 2.” It took me a few seconds to figure out what he was talking about but when I did, I was all for it. : )
bb