Many of our kids have long term sleep issues. GlitterGirl adjusted splendidly to life with her new family in all ways except bedtime. When it was time for bed she would completely lose it. Every night. For one and a half to three hours. For years and years and years.
For the first few weeks (maybe [...]

Now that you’ve read the comments to yesterday’s post, you’ll know I’m not exaggerating with today’s post.
When we came home with GlitterBaby, somewhere around the second or third day, somewhere around 2:00 in the afternoon, I simply could not stay awake any longer. I sucked on ice, we turned the a/c up so it was [...]

There was a question in yesterday’s comments of who is responsible for making sure we are ready to parent the child we are allowed/approved to adopt. Personally, I think I’m responsible for making sure I’m ready. But on a bigger scale, I think that my government (and the government of China) put itself in the [...]

Let’s have a conversation today about whether you think you were prepared ahead of time for adoption. This is for those who have adopted NSN and SN, domestic or international. There are a few things we need to know in order to put your comments into perspective:

The year your home studies took place.
The year you [...]

I do not believe that TwinkleToes had ever attached to anyone while in the orphanage. And being that she was almost two years old at adoption, the attachment literature would tell us that attachment with her should have been a nightmare.
But really, it wasn’t hard at all. She did not attach right away, of [...]

Most of the attachment literature out there is aimed at the child who has never formed a really healthy attachment to anyone before, and who has to be taught about healthy attachment. Those books have you pretty much forcing the issue – sleeping with a child who would prefer to sleep alone, holding or wearing [...]