Fair
GG: It’s not FAIR!!!!
RQ: Who told you life was going to be fair?
Wow, that’s a hard one. Kids want everything to be fair, they seem to be born with this sense of fairness, and when they learn that life doesn’t always seem to be fair, it’s sometimes hard for them to take.
Right now the talk about fair vs not fair revolves around the fact that GlitterGirl has certain responsibilities and TwinkleToes does not. I tried pointing out that GlitterGirl didn’t have to do those things either, when she was TwinkleToes’ age, but that didn’t work. I’ve also pointed out when GlitterGirl can do something TwinkleToes can’t do because TwinkleToes isn’t old enough. That doesn’t seem to have helped, either. So, I’ve reverted to “yeah, life’s not fair sometimes, do it anyway”. When we are trying to get ready in the mornings and I’m not up for a debate about it, it works.
When we aren’t in the middle of a conflict about it I’ve brought it up a few times and talked about the whole “fair” thing. It’s not really fair that her friend has to wear glasses, for instance. It’s just the way it is, though. It’s also not fair that a young family member’s daddy moved out of the house and he never gets to see his daddy anymore. It’s very sad, and N didn’t do anything to make it happen, it’s just terribly unfair.
And the thing I haven’t said yet, but that I’m sure we are working up to – it’s not really fair that some kids stay with their original families and some do not. And it’s not really fair that some kids in an orphanage get adopted very young and others have to wait for two years to get adopted. And it’s even less fair that some kids don’t get adopted at all.
Am I the only one who does that? Talk about non-adoption related things in a way that you know may help later with an adoption conversation?